Monday, September 30, 2013

.::. When September ends... .::.


September has come to an end, ending the 3rd quarter of the year.

August was crazy. We joined the hordes of people leaving Singapore for the National Day long weekend, and after we got back, August just flew by. August was his nephew’s birthday – the special one - because he first brought me to meet his family at his nephew’s birthday as a friend 9 years ago. He was still a little boy then, but all grown up now. Then there was an old friend’s baby shower and another who has just given birth. Lots to celebrate and I’m overflowing with love for the people I care about.

September is the husband’s and brother’s birthday. I’ve got it all planned and ready! The past few years has been a blur. Last year’s September was during our difficult renovation period while the year before was the ballot for flats and subsequently planning our ROM. I can’t seem to remember what we’ve done, but I had it all planned this year. His birthday present was already shipped to our home some weeks ago – this indented Eames lounge chair in Oak which he has been eyeing since before renovation but budget did not allow us to get it.

September is also my tuitee’s PSLE exams. I’ve been contemplating to stop teaching tuition to focus on building a career and business instead. It’s extremely tiring to juggle work, teaching, ACCA classes and a new project. It’s a tough choice to make and part of me can’t bear to stop as I enjoy teaching and get a lot of satisfaction from the children I teach. It’s been almost 10 years since I’ve been teaching and I never stopped except for that year in Sweden. Part of me still wonders if I should teach for a living, simply because it’s something I enjoy doing. But after 6 MOE rejections despite my honors and a masters’ degree, a large part of me thinks that I shouldn’t force things and it isn’t meant to be. Afterall, teaching is a very small portion of a teacher’s job and I’m not too sure I will enjoy teaching with the politics and all.

September is also the month that I’ve finally finished paying for most of the installments for our household appliances! No more huge credit card bills even when I haven’t bought anything. I can’t remember the last time I shopped for myself. These days, I’m extra cautious about spending, because thinking of the future sends a shudder down my spine.  Cars are out of reach – we’re not sure about spending 2 grand every month. Children are ridiculously expensive with estimated cost at SGD$250,000 to rear a child in Singapore. The people around me ends up with hospital bills of between $8,000  - $18,000 just for giving birth at private hospitals. =_=” No wonder the husband insists on having more savings before we have kids.

Lastly, September is also a special month because we’ll launching a little dream, something which a few of us have been working on for the past weeks.

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Lao Tzu

May this year end with a high-note! =)

Sunday, September 22, 2013

.::. Bundle With Love .::.

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Sunday, September 15, 2013

.::. Confinement 101 - Part 2 .::.


8 common questions of confinement

Is it true that one could make use of confinement to condition their body constitution? How could the body be conditioned and how to do confinement? How to nourish the body based on different body types? These are common questions which pregnant women ask and 8 common questions will be reviewed from a professional’s standpoint.

1. Why should one do confinement? What is the purpose? Can it really change the body’s constitution?


As the mother loses a lot of blood during labor, together with sweat, back aches, tummy pains – this is a very physically tiring process. Your tendons and bones and blood is weakened and makes it easy for the cold to invade the body. This requires a period of time to adjust and nourish your body. Thus, it makes confinement essential to restore health. During confinement, do suitable exercise and rest, including suitable food for and tonics to help the uterus contract to its natural size before birth. With proper conditioning, blood and stamina would slowly recover and become better than before. During this period, poor constitution would also improve.

2. What are the basic principles of confinement?


(a) Be mindful of temperature difference.

Due to different environments and change in weather and temperature, the mother should wear suitable clothes and prepare suitable electronic devices indoor to adjust the temperature and humidity. Indoor temperature should be kept at between 25-26 degrees with a 50-60% humidity. The mother should wear long sleeves, long pants and socks to prevent catching a cold. This also prevents the joints from ‘having wind’ and pain.

(b) Appropriate work and rest

To expel toxins and to recover the body and figure, suitable rest and exercise is necessary. During the initial stage, the mother will feel weak and tired with possible headaches and should rest in bed. One should not get out of bed for more than half-an-hour. Wait till your strength is restored, you can extend this time and keep it to an hour or two to prevent prolonged periods of standing or sitting that will cause backaches and back-pains, knee and joint pains.

(c) Keep clean

Hair and body should be cleaned regularly to stay fresh and prevent bacterial infection

(d) Adjust your diet

The previous steps are similar for everyone. However, for diet, there should be a distinction based on one’s constitution. Also, the expulsion of toxins and breastfeeding may be difficult for some, or when there’s cold, ulcers, itch, gastric etc. This is when diet and medication has to change.  In the past, due to less ideal environments and bad living conditions without electrical appliances, confinement rules were stricter, for example no showering and washing of hair for a month. However, in modern days, people do not need to go through these hardships, but diet plays the biggest role and it’s best to get a Chinese doctor to recommend accordingly based on body constitution.



3. Must alcohol be added in all confinement food?


Confinement food should be cooked with ginger as it warms the uterus and joints. The purpose of alcohol is for blood circulation and helps in the expulsion of toxins. If all toxins are expelled fully, cooking with alcohol may cause the uterus to not shrink.

4. Why is ginseng prohibited during initial confinement when it nourishes and increase strength?            


During confinement, the body starts to expel all toxins and fluids. Ginseng increases strength (补气) and stops the blood (止血). Ginseng causes blood to lessen (晕变少), making it difficult to expel the toxins and causes blood clots and pain the uterus. Thus, wait for 2-3 weeks before consuming ginseng.

5. The effect of different seasons on nourishment


The diet has to be adjusted based on the 4 seasons, otherwise there will be side effects. Traditional confinement food is heaty and suitable for winter. During summer and spring, ginger and alcohol can be reduced. If the weather is extremely hot, alcohol can be omitted but add 2-3 slices of ginger.

6. What are the principles of confinement for women with different body constitutions?



The different body constitutions and food analysis as follow:

Cold Constitution (寒性体)

Characteristic: Pale, afraid of the cold, pale mouth and seldom thirsty, urinate often with pale urine, clear pale tongue, liquid mucus, phlegm, get colds often.
Food: Weak tummy and intestines, cold hands and feet due to poor blood circulation. Eat more warm food such as sesame chicken but not too oily food to prevent diarrhea (如麻油鸡、烧酒鸡、四物汤、四物鸡或十全大补汤等) Warm food can aid blood circulation, nourishing the blood and strengthening the bones, preventing backaches.
Prohibited foods:  Cold fruits and vegetables such as watermelon, papaya, pomelo, grapefruit, pears, star fruits, oranges, tomatoes, melons, rock melon
To eat: Lychee, longan, apple, strawberry, cherries, grapes.


Hot Constitution (性体)

Characteristic:  Red face and eyes, heat intolerance, warm feet and hands, dry mouth, dry stools or constipation, thick yellow mucus, less urine but yellow, dry and red tongue, ulcers often, skin sores.
Food: Not to eat too much sesame chicken, When cooking sesame chicken, reduce ginger and amount of sesame oil and alcohol. Other recommended food for nourishment include herbal chicken, black glutinous rice, fish soup, pork ribs soup, vegetables like shark-fins melon, winter melon, lotus root to reduce heatines or vegetable-tofu soup. For those with backache, cook pork kidney soup after frying it with (杜仲五).
Prohibited foods: Lychee, longans, apples
Eat some: oranges, strawberries, cherries, grapes.

Neutral Constitution (中性体)

Characteristic:  Not too hot nor too cold, no dry mouth, seldom fall sick.
Foods: Easier choice of diet can nourish with herbs and food with no issues. If nourishing food causes dry mouth or pimples, stop nourishing food for a period and eat more cooling vegetables or fresh orange juice or grape juice without ice.

7. What are the common symptoms after birth?


Common symptoms are anemia, insufficient breast milk, mastitis, metritis, bodyahce, backache, diarrhea, headache, constipation.  High iron foods such as meat, black glutinous rice porridge, red bean soup could help anemia. For constipation, eat bananas, sesame paste with honey. For engorgement (可用1两麦芽糖、3钱蒲公英、3钱王不留行,共同炖煮食物吃,可促进排乳。)

8. Reasons for aches after birth?


As the baby feeds as they sleep for a long time and the mother sits for too long with sometimes long nights of carrying the baby, backaches and pain in the elbow and wrists. To avoid such pains, the mother has to be mindful of posture, have support at the back, rest more, walk less and do not get out of bed for more than an hour. 可炖煮杜仲猪腰汤,恶露干净后可吃十全大补汤(内含杜仲、续断),对解除筋骨酸痛都有不错的效果。



 Hsio S Confinement recipe

No fruits for first and second week to prevent water retention.

First day after birth (5 meals a day):

Breakfast: Fish with ginger soup, sesame mee sua, green vegetables
Lunch: Sesame pork liver, 5-grained rice, mixed vegetables.
Tea: Sweet corn porridge
Dinner: Herbal chicken leg, salmon fried rice
Supper: Sweet potatoes with brown sugar

Next 3 weeks:

Week 1:
Seabass fish soup, pork liver to expel toxins

Week 2:
Pork kidney and nourishing soups to replenish calcium and minerals.

Week 3:
Sesame chicken

Thursday, September 12, 2013

.::. Those were the days .::.


I still think of my days in Sweden a lot. Sometimes, it’s involuntary, and flashes of memories would appear in my mind. Sometimes, I revisit my memories, just like watching an old movie again. It doesn’t feel like it’s been 3 years, and yes, those were one of my happiest memories.

What I missed most was perhaps feeling so carefree. It wasn’t something Singaporeans experienced often.

A normal day would be getting up in the morning, make an omelet for breakfast, getting ready for school with my packed lunch before making my way to school. I did not stay in Lund where the school was, but stayed in the third largest city in Sweden and about 20 minutes train-ride away. Buses and trains weren’t packed, people were polite and minded their own business, there were seats on buses and trains. I usually had lunch with my course mates, all of us heating up our lunch boxes and making free hot tea. Some days we head to the library or work on our presentations, other days I head to the gym and supermarket.

Nights usually ended early unless it was one of those dinner nights at Emma’s and Anny’s in Lund. I tried to head home early, because the evenings were nights in Singapore and the husband (then boyfriend) would be online waiting for me. Both of us had webcams but we would on the webcam and not talk, but type instead. He thinks it’s strange talking into a computer. He would carry Chinook and let me see him and we would update each other on what’s happening or I’d show him my home-cooked dinner.

During days when there weren’t lessons, I woke up late, made breakfast and would walk to the beach. I loved those walks. It was always breezy with people jogging, men pushing prams. Everyone had their own piece of beach and it was a picture of calm and quietness. On the way back, I will visit the supermarket for good deals. I was very thrifty and only bought the cheapest stuff, just because I’d rather spend whatever money I had on traveling. I bought meats that were on sale and freeze them and actually, whatever that was on sale.

Once a week, usually on Saturday, I would visit the Asian market. They sold white mushrooms and broccoli, white cabbage, red/green peppers cheaply. Sometimes, a big plastic bag of white button mushrooms cost me $2 and I would eat it for a whole week. Onions, carrots and potatoes were cheap, so I usually got them from the supermarket. Somedays, I splurge on green Asian vegetables which were rare and expensive there. I still remembered how happy I was to have a stir-fried sambal kang kong.

Apart from these daily routines, I’m usually open to activities and meeting people. I usually joined whatever parties people invited me to. Their parties are usually in the faculty or dorms, with people buying food and gathering to chat and drink. I speak to all sort of strangers, met all sorts of people from all over the world. Most of them, I never do remember their names nor keep in contact after. But it’s these people who has ignited a quiet revolution in me and opened my mind to many other perspectives.

Being brought up in Singapore sometimes narrow our minds. From young, we were brought up to see only one road – to study hard, get great results, and to find a good job and climb up the corporate ladder. We can’t stop, we must keep going up and save for retirement. There’s no other way to survive. Part of me feel trapped, yet another part of me long to break free. I believe in dreams, yet I’m practical by nature. Perhaps the biggest issue is not knowing what you want exactly, and nobody can have it all.

And perhaps, that’s why life is a journey, a lifelong search for meaning.

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

.::. Sunsets .::.

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I love sunsets, perhaps because I'm not a morning person. Ever since we did up the bay window, I spent quite some time sitting on it to enjoy the sunsets or simply laze on it with music on after a long day. It's usually breezy, and sometimes the dog stays on my lap and look out together.

Home. It's really a place I feel safe and love.


Monday, September 9, 2013

.::. How to do confinement? - Part 1 .::.


There are many pregnant friends around me and some have just given birth, some celebrating their full-month, while some are doing confinement. It's unbelievable that our birth rate is so low, because I seem to be surrounded by pregnant women or people who are trying to conceive. There's so much baby talk that I've been having all sorts of baby dreams. One of them involves a good friend having a water birth when the baby was 3 years old (yes, 3 YEARS old!) and breastfeeding him while the umbilical cord was still attached.  While I really love babies and children generally, some tug at my heart-strings more than others.

So among these baby talk and all sorts of pregnancy know-hows, I was helping to translate a confinement article/book written by a Taiwanese doctor and it's rumored to be what Hsiao S followed during her confinement according to some websites. I suppose you can search for the book to buy and read if you're really interested. But for those who can't read chinese, I'm sharing the translated version. Do read with a pinch of salt, although I personally think it makes a lot of sense - to the horror of one of my colleague. She practically shrieked with horror and asked me if there's still educated women in this era who believes in not bathing during confinement - I do!

Me, being the 'westernized' chinese, am still pretty much traditional in some ways..oh well. Moreover, these are part of traditional chinese medicine which has worked for many years, although not 'proven' like western medicine is. Not everything can be scientifically proven and that does not mean it's not true. Chinese medicine usually helps to cure the root of the problem and emphasize on the body's constitution, instead of curing the symptoms of problems like western medicine. People believe in what they would like to believe anyway.

So, what is confinement? Confinement is usually practiced for a period of a month, immediately after childbirth for asian woman, as they believe that the body is very weak and requires rest to recuperate. There are many different variations and beliefs, but most would agree to no direct wind and cooking with ginger/sesame oil for its warming properties and to get rid of wind in the body. Some beliefs include not drinking plain water (replacing it with red dates water/boiled rice wine) and not showering (but cleaning the body with a cloth and herbal water) - these are those which come under fire, especially under western doctors which we all consult these days.

P.S. I'm not pregnant nor will I be in the near future!
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Written by Taiwanese doctor, Dr. Zhuang Shuqin’s confinement theory for Chinese women and loosely translated:

Main points:
1. Do not drink water (substitute water with rice water instead of ordinary water) 
2. Do not consume salt (as little salt as possible) 
3. Use a waist cloth to bundle the waist
4. Have plenty of peaceful rest

This method has been tried and tested with positive results in many women – with improvement in health and weight. Taiwanese author Dr. Zhuang Shuqin, is a renowned expert in obstetrics and gynecology. She suggested that women have three opportunities in a lifetime to adjust their body, so as to restore youth, beauty and health, that is during the initial menses period, after reproduction and menopause. The most important opportunity is the post-reproduction stage. During this period, your body is like an open door and can expel all the excess water and toxins that was accumulated during pregnancy (this is the main reason for postpartum weight gain). Subsequently, the body could be properly nourished to improve health.

3 stages of confinement (坐月子三阶段:一排二调三补)


Confinement has 3 different stages: first, to expel toxins, second to adjust the body and third, to nourish the body.

The plan for the first month is to divide the month into individual weeks, and to eat different things based on your body needs.

Week 1
The main thing is to expel excess water and toxins as well as drink ‘sheng hua’ soup and eat stir-fried liver in sesame oil. Be careful not to drink water (otherwise you’ll be unable to expel access water). Only drink thirst quenching drinks like lychee ke drinks, hawthorn slices (san zha) drinks or boiled rice wine. Do not use water when cooking any food, replace water with rice wine instead. Do not use salt or soy sauce as it causes water retention and do not add vinegar as it softens your bones.

Week 2
It’s important to strengthen your bones and kidneys function and to restore the pelvis (gu pen). Eat stir-fried kidney everyday with gutta-percha (du zhong fen). This can help tailbone pain. If caesarean birth, continue drinking ‘shen hua’ soup. Similar to week 1 do not take salt, miso soup, kimchi and preserved food.

Week 3 – 4
All toxics and excess water should have been expelled, nourish your body with sesame chicken. Remember that your body can only absorb nutrients after expelling all toxins. Otherwise, toxins accumulated in your body would become excess fats. In the first 2 weeks, the body is weak and in Chinese medicine, it is believed that a weak body cannot be nourished. Nourishment would only increase the burden on the body.

All food should be cooked with a generous amount of rice wine, ginger, sesame oil, brown sugar (not herbal wine, cooking wine or yellow wine as it contains salt and has different purpose).

 During confinement, you should not be exposed to direct wind and should keep your feet warm and walk with thick-base shoes (no slippers, keep feet wrapped) or your heels would hurt in the future. Wash your face with boiled rice wine that is warm. Do not bathe; wipe your body with the warm rice wine that has been boiled before. Wrap your waist with a waist belt and it’s best to breast feed – it hastens recovery. Start exercise only after confinement. It’s easy to go back to pre-pregnancy weight after confinement. However, muscles would lose its tone and tummy will be loose during the first month. Be consistent with exercise after confinement. With a proper confinement, problems like water retention in the feet, swelling of joints would recover.

Although it may be difficult to go without salt for a month, a month’s of ‘suffering’ is easier than the effort taken to lose weight after birth.

Lifestyle during confinement period:


 1.       Have peaceful rest for the first 30-40 days.

The most important thing after giving birth is to rest. Everyone around including the husband, relatives and friends should work together and help to ensure that the mother has enough rest, do not let her leave the room and do not do anything. This is regardless of social status, number of births or miscarriage – the same care should be given. Natural delivery requires 30 days of rest while caesarian requires at least 40 days.

2.       Bed-rest for 2 weeks.

During the first 2 weeks the uterus (zi gong) is contracting rapidly. As the uterus has expanded to accommodate the fetus during pregnancy, it makes it very large and the birth leaves a void. As there is no pressure left to be exerted on the internal organs, they become loose and cause the internal organs to sag. Sitting and walking would cause the internal organs to sag permanently due to gravity which becomes the root cause of much woman sickness in the long-run. Thus, during the first 2 weeks after birth, the mother should lie down on the bed apart from toilet breaks and meal-times.  Bed-rest is recommended regardless of day or night.

3.       Wrapping a belt around the waist prevents the internal organs from sagging and helps the tummy to get back into shape.

It’s an important to make use of the confinement period to adjust your body shape and improve your body. Use this period to wrap your tummy to achieve the desired shape. It’s important to prevent the internal organs from sagging as it’s the root cause for many women sickness and pre-mature aging of the body, causing excess fats around the tummy and lower abdomen. For people who has sagging internal organs (perhaps due to previous birth), it’s important to take advantage of this period to improve. Wrapping the waist could help to contract the tummy and prevent the sagging of organs.
The belt used to wrap the tummy should be a long silk cloth, about 1.2m long and 15cm wide. Everyone should prepare 2 to be used interchangeably. As it’s easy to perspire during confinement due to the nourishing food, unleash the belt and wipe the sweat and add some (non-cooling) powder before tightening the belt again. The one-piece waist belts commonly available does not prevent the internal organs from sagging and may even exert pressure on the internal organs, causing bad blood circulation and internal organs to deform and breathing difficulties. It may also cause protruding of lower tummy.

Method to buddle the tummy:
1.     Measurement: Use a white breathable silk cloth 1.2m long and 15cm wide.
2.     Usage: up to the mother whether to wear underwear after bundling. Due to perspiration, prepare 2 pieces to be used interchangeably.
3.     Benefits: to prevent the sagging of internal organs and help the tummy to contract
4.     Time to start: from 2nd day of birth for natural birth/miscarriage and from 6th day after birth for cesarean (to wrap tummy only for first 5 days).
5.     To bundle daily: Loosen it before 3 meals and re-tie to tighten it before eating. Tighten it after bath. Leave it on for 24 hour during the first 2 weeks and tighten it whenever necessary. From 3rd week onwards, only bundle it in the day.
6.     Cleaning: Wash with cold water and detergent, rinse with cold water and air dry before use. Do not use washer as it wrinkles easily.
7.     Method to tie the cloth:
(a)   Lie down and life up the knees with feet flat on the bed. Try to form a right angle between the abdomen and thighs, raise the hips and buttocks and place 2 pillows for support behind.
(b)   Place both hands on the lower abdomen, palms facing forward; massage by pushing your internal organs towards the heart, hold it there.
(c)    Split the tying into 2 stages – from pelvis to navel, wrap 12 rounds. For the first 7 rounds, overlap and fold once every 1.5 rounds (fold by inverting the front to back). For the next 5 rounds, move up by 2cm like a spiral every round. When reaching the belly button, use a safety pin to fix the position and fold in excess cloth.
(d)   It’s essential to wrap 12 rounds everytime. If bigger-sized, use a longer cloth.
(e)   If too slim and hip bones are jutting out, causing the cloth to be unable to tighten/fit around the tummy, use towels to fill the gaps.


4.       Do not wash the hair. Use proper methods to clean the scalp.

During pregnancy, there’s a great increase in pressure and burden on the uterus which will expand greatly. Thus, after birth, one should help the uterus to contract back to its original size as soon as possible. To restore the womb’s original functions, the most important step is to expel the ‘dirty’ blood in the womb completely. If the womb contracts quickly and expels all toxins, creating a vacuum, the secretion/production of hormones will be extra active and health would be better than before birth. The washing of hair would cause the scalp to be ‘cold’ and the ‘dirty’ blood in the womb would quickly harden, making it difficult to be expelled. Washing of hair is prohibited even if it’s quickly dried with hair dryer right after. The usage of hair dryer would cause headaches in future. Not expelling the ‘dirty blood’ in the womb completely would cause hormonal imbalance or less production of hormones, causing future problems. Thus, do not wash the hair for the first 30 days or risk future regret and problems.
Method to clean the scalp:
Warm medicinal alcohol and dip cotton wool into it. Separate hair and wipe scalp using left-right motions. Massage the back of the head slightly before using a comb to brush off the dirt. This will help you to feel lighter and could be done daily, before meals. Comb your hair with a soft-bristle comb as this will help the blood circulation and help you to stay alert.

5.       Do not bathe in the first 2 weeks, but wash using the right methods.

Use the correct methods to wipe the body for the first 2 weeks to prevent cold. Showering is permitted after 2 weeks, soaking in a bath is permitted after confinement.

Sponge bath method
Using boiled water and rice wine in the ratio of 1:1, and add 10cc of medicinal alcohol and 10g of salt. Mix it and use it to sponge yourself. Wet a towel and twist it dry, wipe the tummy and areas of perspiration in the morning, afternoon and night. If it’s winter, do it only once. After wiping, dust on powder that is not cooling. Change the cloth used to bundle tummy.
Cleaning the face and brushing teeth do not require salt nor medicinal alcohol but requires warm water to prevent headaches. Do not use cold water. For face, use suitable cleanser and skincare products as per normal.
For disinfection, use tea (separate the leaves) and add some salt and medicinal alcohol. Mix is and use it to clean the genitals and anus, This helps with contracting the area and close pores.


6.       Do not come into contact with direct wind, regardless hot or cold wind.

After birth, all pores in the body including the scalp is open. Any contact with wind would cause the pores to shrink. This will cause headaches, body and bone aches or flu.

7.       Stay in a comfortable environment that maintained between 25-28 degrees.

The mother requires a comfortable environment to rest and air-con may be required for an optimum temperature but strictly no direct wind is allowed. The mother needs to wear long-sleeved, long pants, gloves, socks and hat to block any wind from going into the body.

8.       Do not touch cold water.

Do not touch cold water to prevent body aches. Use warm water for washing, brushing and showering after 2 weeks.

9.       Do not carry your baby.

The most important thing during confinement is the peace of mind - to rest and stay calm, enjoy eating and sleeping. The body functions are quickly recovering, so do not carry heavy things, do not carry baby as this will cause the internal organs to sag. Also, the newborn does not have fully developed internal organs and spine and should not be carried often – should be left to sleep.

10.   Breast feed while lying on your side.

Even during breast-feeding, lie down on your side and let the baby suck horizontally. The mother could lie on her back and place pillows behind the back and behind the baby for support. Be careful of the baby’s nose and do not block it to avoid suffocation.

 11.   About breastfeeding

Every woman will secrete breast milk after birth. Breast milk is adequate initially but if the baby does not suck, no additional breast milk will be produced. Even if the baby finishes all the initial breast milk, the supply is continuous as this is the mother’s natural ability. Thus, not breast feeding is a very bad thing. If baby’s consumption is very little, the excess milk has to be expressed to stimulate the production of more milk.

If mother is unable to breast feed personally, she has to express the milk as the accumulation of the milk would cause hardening and infection. It’s best to breast feed in the first 6 months as this is the most natural form of parenting. This will also protect the mother and reduces future risk of breast cancer.
If milk is light colored or insufficient, eat pig trotters with peanuts. To stimulate milk production, practice the ‘press door bell’ on the nipples.

Press door-bell method to stimulate the nipples:
(a)  After birth, do the press door-bell to stimulate nipples every 4 hours till milk spurts out
(b)  Nipples can be stimulated in 3 ways – to let newborn babies suck it, using a breast pump, get the father to suck for better control of suction.
(c)  Do not exceed 15 minutes for each breast but do it continuously and consistently every 4 hours till there’s an endless supply of milk.

12.   Do not bathe for the baby.

Do not bend and bathe for the baby. Otherwise, it will cause body aches and backaches. Arrange for someone to bathe the baby or get the father to do it.

13.   Do not climb stairs and do not carry heavy things.

This will cause internal organs to sag and back aches, body aches

14.   Do not cry.

Women’s aging starts from the eyes, thus taking care of the eyes after birth is important.  As the Chinese saying goes “A drop of tear is as precious as 10kg of gold. “. Any bad news should not be made known to the mother. It’s the husband’s responsibility to protect his wife and let her rest peacefully during confinement.  Crying will cause the eyes to age quickly, and may cause pain the eyes and other eye diseases such as glaucoma or cataracts. The mother should stay happy and optimistic, smile often.

15.   Do not watch TV or read.

The mother should avoid watching TV or reading or limit it to 10-15 minutes and rest the eyes in between. It is best to listen to soothing music to rest the eyes and remain peaceful.

16.   Eyes massage.

For woman with tired eyes, soak a towel in hot water and place it on the eyes after meals and before sleep, together with massage.

Eyes massage method:
(a)   Close your eyes and use both middle fingers to push upwards from your nose bridge to middle of forehead.
(b)   Using the thumb, place it in the curve between eyes and eyebrow, exert pressure and knead but avoid the eyes.
(c)    Using middle fingers, apply downward pressure at the edge of the hair. Exert pressure with the thumb till gradually towards the end of the eye.